The Essence of Love:

Love is a magnificent feeling, a selfless emotion directed towards someone, embodying hope, care, affection, constant conversation, deep understanding, compassion, passion, warmth, and protectiveness. It includes mutual desire and lust towards each other’s bodies, respect, and trust—an inclusive embrace of rich emotions and connections.

Love is what makes us feel alive. It has a different meaning for everyone. Sometimes, love is loud, and sometimes, it doesn't say a word. We can only feel it. Love isn't big promises or grand gestures. Love is a small subtle, and sincere action we take every day to protect and build our relationship.

We are the kindest and most generous when we are in love. We also discover new things about ourselves, such as how passive and forgiving we can be. Love has the magical ability to make us both naive and a bit crazy, leading us to engage in the silliest of actions.

What I feel is there’s nothing like true or fake love. I believe that the concepts of true or fake love are irrelevant; love is love, and it should be free from rigid definitions or classifications.

Love, sex, and relationships are three different things. Each can exist without the others. The key ingredients common to all three are respecting the partner and being compassionate. Relationships should be built on trust, respect, understanding, constant communication — more compromises, and a bit of sacrifice.

Respect, empathy, passion, affection, and friendship collectively contribute to creating everlasting relationships.

Love’s Many Faces:

Love doesn’t have to occur only once in a lifetime; it can happen again and again. Falling in love multiple times is entirely possible. Personally, I’ve experienced love not just once, but a few times, and I have faced failures as well. However, looking back at those moments, the experiences and memories of that love are both precious and priceless.

When people assert that we can only love one person in our lives, I find it silly. No hormone or body mechanism restricts our capacity to love; instead, certain social conventions and age-old conservative thoughts might make us feel that way. The reality is, we may fall out of love at any moment and can fall in love multiple times, with multiple people.

Journey of Love:

Humans are designed for emotional connection. One emotionally intimate relationship can profoundly impact our well-being. Our brain and nervous system are built to attune to another human being. When we deeply bond with someone, we experience rushes of “Extremely Happy Chemicals” like Dopamine and Oxytocin. This is psychologically proven, and the majority of us experience this euphoria.

Love has no perfect timing or age restrictions. If it arrives adorned in our favorite hues, humming our cherished melodies, and resonating with our innermost thoughts and passions, welcome it with open arms and embrace its presence.

We cannot control others’ perceptions of us or their emotions toward us. Our power lies in aligning our actions with our own beliefs and feelings. All we can do is consider what we think and feel about ourselves.

Love’s Challenges:

We live in a world where love and trust are becoming increasingly rare and elusive. In our country, people still don’t have the right to choose who they want to be with. That’s quite bleak because love shouldn’t be restricted; it shouldn’t be controlled. Its magnificence shines when left alone.

Love is supposed to be free, and it's supposed to fly around!

If we have truly loved someone, we can’t bring ourselves to hate the person, no matter how much they hurt us. We might move away and protect ourselves, but we cannot truly hate the person we once loved. However, the pain intensifies when people take our love for granted or purposely hurt us despite our love for them.

Hurt is a part of life, just like love. Just because we have been hurt before, it doesn't mean we shouldn't love anyone else with the same or even more intensity and passion as before, for the fear of getting hurt again.

Everyone has a different level of how much they give and invest in love. It’s important to remember not to change ourselves or how we value people based on those who didn’t reciprocate on the same level. It’s okay if they didn’t feel for us the way we felt for them. Sometimes, it’s like we are trying to sell a flower to someone who already has a garden or to someone who doesn’t want to buy it. We may wonder why it didn’t work out, but the truth is that sometimes, the other person is simply not interested in us or disconnected from love. At times, both of us are right in our own way, and neither of us can be blamed for choosing love and not reciprocating.

Letting Go and Finding Love Again:

There is only one way to love, and that is to love wholeheartedly. Just as it is important to love without conditions, it is also essential to ensure that we are respected and treated right. Sometimes, love comes with an expiry date no matter how well we nurture it and how hard we try to hold on to a person, we have to let them go eventually. Whatever is meant to stay will stay.— What’s meant to be can never be forced; it flows naturally.

What is meant for us will always find its way. The universe plays a role in this. There is no point in holding on tightly to someone who doesn’t want to stay. Leaving someone whom we love takes a lot of strength. We can love someone immensely and still decide to leave because we understand what the situation needs.

Love shouldn't be a mystery. Love should be an understanding, "Break up with grace."

It’s not easy to let someone go when we’ve built our home around them and they’ve made us feel homeless. But, it’s crucial to remember that we are the home; we complete ourselves alone. We made them important in our lives. When our emotional connection with someone we love disappears, we start to see them as ordinary individuals like everyone else. It is our love and affection that made them appear special. When we stop giving them importance, they’re just like any other random person we see every day.

Sometimes what we give with all our heart may have little or no value to the receiver in comparison to their wants and aspirations. This is the harsh reality of life and we need to accept this bitter reality and let them go.

When our hearts are broken, and we find ourselves vulnerable, it’s essential to allow ourselves to feel the pain and let the tears cleanse our souls. Take a pause, heal completely, and bounce back. Through this process, we can learn to love ourselves a little more and build a beautiful home within ourselves. Eventually, love will find us again when we least expect it— because love is all we need, and it’s all around in abundance.

Connection and Manifestation:

If I’m attracted to someone, level up, align my thoughts with romantic ideals in a relationship, and engage in stimulating conversation, then yes, I will find myself in love all over again.

I firmly believe that we do not simply fall in love with someone. Instead, we fall in love with the level of connection and profound feelings we experience when we are around them. We fall in love with the idea of the passionate feelings that arise when we are with them. We are attracted to the notions of romance, compassion, attention, and flirtation.

Since this is an attraction-based universe, it accepts our point of attraction and gives it more essence. If we focus on the right people, the right people will attract us. As Rumi says, ‘What you seek is seeking you.’ The universe is listening to us. We may have multiple opportunities along the way and some magic may happen. ‘When we want something genuinely, manifest it, work towards it, then the whole universe conspires to make it happen.’ Just trust the universe and the Law of Attraction; we will find love all over again because love is one of a kind, and life doesn’t disappoint us with beautiful surprises when we least expect it.

To lose the urge to love is the biggest loss a human can suffer. Not knowing how to love is the biggest ignorance a person can claim. Our world can use a lot more love and we all can afford a little more love and it’s in abundance. Be a believer of a giver. A giver of love, a giver of good vibes, and be harmonious!

Happiness is relative to the generosity of one’s heart. What we get is always, multiples of what we give.

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